Where Am I In The Midst Of All This?
If you are put in a situation where you are in a state of unhappiness and confusion and you had been living a very difficult life expecting the new one to be different. Different in the sense of finding comfort, ease, and containment (none of the previous are in reference to materialistics, but on emotional grounds). What would you do?
a) Try so hard and keep on trying? Considering, what if you become exhausted and lost all the energy and are really unhappy. Where will u get the energy to continue trying from?
b) Walking out. But that will break up other people's lives but will save yours? And maybe you can be able to make up for it but from a distance? Considering it might take some time for others to forgive you. But there might be a possibility they won't.
c) Forget about what you were craving for all your life for the sake of others' happiness? But you will end up living in anguish and break down slowly or snap at some point or keep hanging in there but choose others' happiness and comfort over yours?
Personally I am in search for peace. Real peace. I despise loud voices. I hate it when people are not logical in discussions and do not want to solve things, but rather leave them hanging without logic or consideration and expect that life will be smooth shortly. I am trying and will not cease trying. What happened to civilized discussions? I always wonder. You can always give way to the following unless if you are an obstinate person:
First step: Share your idea of the subject
Second step: Give the second person a chance to do the same
Third step: Try to first think of the other person's view, if reasonable why not accept it, if not then go to step four.
Fourth Step: Try to convince the other person of your point of view without making them feel they are obliged to accept it. Do not be a dictator.
Fifth step: If the other person is not convinced go to step six
Step Six: Allow the other person to practice their right of Step four
Step seven: If none of the two choices appeal to either of you, try to both reach a compromise.
Step eight: If a compromise is reached, then all well and good, if not try to find a way to comfort one another as much as possible and make the best out of the situation by taking a third opinion if applicable. If not, then both of you must try to refine to be able to reach to compromises or convincing one another.
If none of the above work, small bricks will build up to make a wall between both of the parties involved and that will be a big problem. Isolation!
I do not like wasting good things in life. Nothing in life is perfect, but can reach to a certain level of human standards of satisfactory perfection according to each individual's real needs. Perfection is only for the Creator with no doubt. Maybe the problem is that I am a Libra. I like things to be balanced, to suit everyone. For everyone to be content and happy including myself. But I do not like the idea of continuous and one sided sacrifices. Unfortunately sometimes there you reach a dead end that results in being "a no solution" situation for one of the involved parties which I think is totally unfair and agitating.
Some people live and die sacrificing for those around them and die doing so. I do of course respect and revere those people. They definitely endured so much during their lifetimes. But why does it have to be one sided, and more over not even noticed or appreciated? There are sacrifices that are essential in life. The only one and lovable sacrifice I can think of right now, is the motherly sacrifice where so much effort is put into bringing up a little one to be a true someone. That type I believe is done with pleasure and no question. Although I hear the oddest comments from some people I know, but will not dwell in depth into that now, maybe later though.
I enjoy relationships that are based on equality, justice, consideration, respect, compassion, and freedom. But not the negative freedom if you know what I mean. I mean the freedom that will not harm or hurt anyone as best as possible. Freedom that will add not destroy.
That is the true difficulty of the situation. Freedom that will not hurt. How can that be accomplished in the midst of all the self centeredness we are living in today?
a) Try so hard and keep on trying? Considering, what if you become exhausted and lost all the energy and are really unhappy. Where will u get the energy to continue trying from?
b) Walking out. But that will break up other people's lives but will save yours? And maybe you can be able to make up for it but from a distance? Considering it might take some time for others to forgive you. But there might be a possibility they won't.
c) Forget about what you were craving for all your life for the sake of others' happiness? But you will end up living in anguish and break down slowly or snap at some point or keep hanging in there but choose others' happiness and comfort over yours?
Personally I am in search for peace. Real peace. I despise loud voices. I hate it when people are not logical in discussions and do not want to solve things, but rather leave them hanging without logic or consideration and expect that life will be smooth shortly. I am trying and will not cease trying. What happened to civilized discussions? I always wonder. You can always give way to the following unless if you are an obstinate person:
First step: Share your idea of the subject
Second step: Give the second person a chance to do the same
Third step: Try to first think of the other person's view, if reasonable why not accept it, if not then go to step four.
Fourth Step: Try to convince the other person of your point of view without making them feel they are obliged to accept it. Do not be a dictator.
Fifth step: If the other person is not convinced go to step six
Step Six: Allow the other person to practice their right of Step four
Step seven: If none of the two choices appeal to either of you, try to both reach a compromise.
Step eight: If a compromise is reached, then all well and good, if not try to find a way to comfort one another as much as possible and make the best out of the situation by taking a third opinion if applicable. If not, then both of you must try to refine to be able to reach to compromises or convincing one another.
If none of the above work, small bricks will build up to make a wall between both of the parties involved and that will be a big problem. Isolation!
I do not like wasting good things in life. Nothing in life is perfect, but can reach to a certain level of human standards of satisfactory perfection according to each individual's real needs. Perfection is only for the Creator with no doubt. Maybe the problem is that I am a Libra. I like things to be balanced, to suit everyone. For everyone to be content and happy including myself. But I do not like the idea of continuous and one sided sacrifices. Unfortunately sometimes there you reach a dead end that results in being "a no solution" situation for one of the involved parties which I think is totally unfair and agitating.
Some people live and die sacrificing for those around them and die doing so. I do of course respect and revere those people. They definitely endured so much during their lifetimes. But why does it have to be one sided, and more over not even noticed or appreciated? There are sacrifices that are essential in life. The only one and lovable sacrifice I can think of right now, is the motherly sacrifice where so much effort is put into bringing up a little one to be a true someone. That type I believe is done with pleasure and no question. Although I hear the oddest comments from some people I know, but will not dwell in depth into that now, maybe later though.
I enjoy relationships that are based on equality, justice, consideration, respect, compassion, and freedom. But not the negative freedom if you know what I mean. I mean the freedom that will not harm or hurt anyone as best as possible. Freedom that will add not destroy.
That is the true difficulty of the situation. Freedom that will not hurt. How can that be accomplished in the midst of all the self centeredness we are living in today?
If I didn't have hope, I would not still be asking questions and seeking solutions.
Last but not least, in the midst of all that, where am I?
posted by Dalulla at 4:23 PM
2 Comments:
hey dalulla, just came back from alex last night.
is everything ok?
hope so. take care girl
HamdEllah 3al salama, wana ba2oul Cairo el volt 3ly leih??? lol
Al hamamd lillah ya doshar... Just wanted to know how people would really react to the situation i mentioned. Will they be patient? Selfless? Slefish? toublesome? What would who do? What will tie them down? Religion? Irrationality? Really what? I am wondering and hoping to find out.
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